Things I’ve been thinking about
-Balance of correction and praise – Make an extra effort to praise after he’s been given significant correction
-a teaching/ gentle guiding tone of voice rather than a reprimanding tone of voice. Discuss the problem with them… talk to them about feelings….
-Don’t be afraid to learn together… talk to him about the things that I am not very good at either (eg- managing negative emotions) and work on strategies, and encourage each other together.
-life, kids and me. Try to be myself and do things I love as much as I can, let the kids join in if they want… and if they don’t want, that’s ok too. I don’t want to feel like my kids are stopping me from doing the things I love. And I want my kids to see me doing the things I love.
-Standing my ground. I get a bit cranky trying to stand my ground when I am attacked with tears of unfairness. I need to work on staying calm and confident that I have made the right decision. Without getting cross about it, I need to acknowledge his feelings, and assure him that he will be ok, that is just the way it is. My tone should also reassure him that I love and care about him.